Stop Selling Yourself Short

Stop Selling Yourself Short

“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”

― Vincent Van Gogh

Thank goodness he did.

Chances are that sometimes you are at a wrestling match with a little voice in your head that dials up your self-doubts. The voice will make you question yourself, doubting your existence and ultimately you will end up selling yourself short. Why do you even exist? Do you really matter to this world? Are you really good enough for this wrecked place? Can’t you get the things that you really want?

It always feels as if the whole universe conspires against you? And you often find yourself questioning God – God why this? God, why not this way? Why did that happen to me? Didn’t I try that harder? Do you think I really not deserve that thing? Why didn’t You make me good enough for this? Why me? Or do You even love me?

Overall these frightening voices, we need to find that one melody that keeps on whispering, just give it a shot! Let’s write an imperfect book! Sing an unpleasant song! Let’s take that plunge and see what happens!

“‎”What does it mean if you tried to get somewhere, and you didn’t?” “Like what?” “Like if you were trying to get somewhere, but you couldn’t find it? Does that mean something bad?”

 “No. It doesn’t mean anything bad. It just means you have a second chance to do it. And two chances are always better than just one.”

C. JoyBell C.

Everyone (except the narcissist) has self-doubts at least once in a while, even the strongest of us. A little self-doubt is not just normal, it’s healthy. It prevents a person from crossing the fine line between self- confidence and certitude.

Allowing self-doubt to prevent you from grabbing opportunities that come your way is an act of self-disruption. It has been reported multiples of time that the greatest people from history often found themselves doubting their abilities, and none of them hesitated to mention their insecurities.

Some Famous Personalities Who Faced Self-doubting Issues More Often

Abraham Lincoln

  • Abraham Lincoln who is famous for his leadership during the American Civil War and for executing the orders to set the slaves free. He has long been known for having many doubts and being “plagued with melancholy.” A day after his success during the 1860 state Republican Convention, Lincoln told the lieutenant governor of Illinois William J. Bross, “I am not well” — referring to his “melancholy,” known today as depression.

Leonardo Da Vinci

  • Even one of the most famous artists in the world faced the human condition — that is, self-doubt. Known for the “Mona Lisa” and “The Last Supper,” it was revealed in a New Yorker article that, like the rest of us, Da Vinci also experience self-doubt, procrastination, and esteem issues.

While you might think fame would reassure someone of their talents and successes, sometimes self-doubt can still creep up.

Celebrities

Lady Gaga

  • In her documentary, Lady Gaga revealed, “I still sometimes feel like a loser kid in high school. I just have to pick myself up and tell myself that I’m a superstar every morning. So that I can get through this day and be for my fans what they need for me to be.”

Emma Watson

  • The Harry Potter actress and activist Emma Watson has also publicly admitted to falling into the trap of imposter syndrome. In an interview with Vogue, she shared how she feels when people offer her praise for her acting: “Now when I receive recognition for my acting, I feel incredibly uncomfortable. I tend to turn in on myself. I feel like an imposter.”

Natalie Portman

  • Academy Award-winning actress Natalie Portman, who graduated from Harvard, is another celebrity who, at times, has felt like a fraud. In her 2015 Harvard commencement speech, Portman said, “Today, I feel much like I did when I came to Harvard Yard as a freshman in 1999. I felt like there had been some mistake, that I wasn’t smart enough to be in this company, and that every time I opened my mouth I would have to prove that I wasn’t just a dumb actress.”

This symbolizes that everything serves a purpose, all these hardships, self-doubts, and setbacks. All you can do is to never stop believing in yourself and your God. When someone said that, thousands of galaxies exist within you, that one was telling you the truth!

When someone said, who, except God can satisfy your heart, he was saying nothing but the truth! You are being told by someone that, if you get something that you want that’s God’s plan, and if not, then He is definitely protecting you from that thing.

My point here is, getting distracted is very easy but sometimes it takes a lifetime to retract yourself. Trying is a must. And try it all harder, after that if you still can’t make it happen. Put your trust in God and His plan. After all, nothing really matters except Him. We can run as far as we can but in the end, He is the one to whom we shall return!

Simple Ways to Beat the Self-doubting:

 Meditate more often

Meditation essentially trains your mind to isolate itself from ‘mental chatter’ which constantly causes anxiety and lowers self-confidence. In other words, it stops you from negative self-talk such as: how you look? What people might think about you? Most importantly meditate on a regular basis! It is not something that you can just do once or twice and then can reap its benefits.

Know that you are not Alone

Knowing that you are lacking something and you are stuck in this situation all alone is what that drains out your confidence. It is a part and parcel of human life that one must face low self- esteem first in order to have a confident life later. It is being said that victory comes to those silence the voice of self-doubts”.

 Watch Yourself

It is easy to spot a yellow car when you always thinking of a yellow car. Easy to find the opportunity when you are always looking for opportunities. You are more likely to be mad when you are looking for a reason of being mad. You become what you constantly think about.

Work Hard in Silence

Grow silently! A seed grows with no sound, but a tree falls with huge noise. Destruction has noise but creation is quite. It’s the power of silence.

Set Immediate and Short Term Goals

It is very easy to get doubtful when your bid dreams are not immediately realized. In order to keep your morale up a sense of achievement plays an important role. Setting and meeting the short term goals is a profitable trade along your way to bigger achievement.

Remember your life Achievements

On the way to achieve something big, it is no wonder to get disappointed by the hindrances of the path. Instead of dwelling on negativity, put your faith in yourself and remember what went right and your recent accomplishments.

 Stay Away from Pessimists

Surround yourself with as much positive energy as you can. Follow the people who you think are the best to keep you sane. Keep the people who encourage you, got your back, and ask for their truest feedback regularly. Life is too short to confront doubters and de-motivators.

Doubts are not the Truth!

Self-doubts are the fears that keep us safe from a loss. Yet, they also make you lose that you may have gained by making an attempt. Sometimes, the doubts are just the opposite. When you start doubting yourself, take one moment out to think, what if you are more talented/ clever/ worthy and wise enough to pursue the goal.

Just Keep Going!

The biggest lesson in life has been to just keep going. Lose everything? Just keep going. Don’t know what you are doing? Just keep going. Left no money in the account? Just keep going. People played you? Just keep going. Remember that, no obstacle has the power to crush you.

Steve Harvey said, “If you are going through hell, keep going. Why would you stop in hell?

Refuse to Quit

No matter what life throws your way, no matter how unfair it may seem, refuse to play the victim. Deny being ruled by fear, pessimism, and negativity. Be a warrior and word through whatever happens. Continually push forward. You are capable of achieving far more than you believe.

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Numira baig

Numira is an author of Blogsy and eloquent in writing about challenging and not-so-common topics. She is one of our editors as well.