There is an Ethiopian Proverb; “When spiders unite, they can tie down a lion.”
If you want to go quickly, Go Alone.African Proverb
If you want to go far, Go Together.
The Oxford dictionary defines it as;
“The fact of thinking only about yourself and not about the needs and feelings of other people.”
Every human is selfish. But there are certain times when you have to make exceptions and take actions without expecting anything in return. This is not so for the self-absorbed person.
“Self-Centered people have only one topic to talk about…Stef Harder
Self-centered people tend to only be good to themselves. Then are surprised when they are alone.
They also tend to have victim mindsets…
Their actions plants seeds of loneliness; then they cry upon the blooming.
Self-absorbed people only think about what makes them feel good at the moment – they don’t have any respect or regard for anyone else.
Then they wonder why their friendships and relationships fail.
Foolish, Selfish are always thinking of themselves and the result is always negative. Wise persons think of others, helping them as much as they can, and the result is happiness. Love and compassion are beneficial both for you and others. Through your kindness to others, your mind and heart will open to peace.Dalai Lama
Too much self-centered attitude, brings isolation, which results in;
fear, anger and loneliness.
Self-centered people crave attention from others, and can reliably find a way to talk about themselves when they begin to feel neglected and unimportant.
In conversations, they may talk too much about themselves.
There are various degrees of being self-centered, but the general traits are the same:
- putting themselves first,
- only caring about their needs and wants,
- being unable to see another’s perspective,
- being uncaring of others
No one likes self-centered persons.
They do portray certain patterns that are similar to narcissistic people, and getting close to such people can hurt your self-esteem.
Signs of Self-Centered People:
- Self-Centered feel insecure from time to time. They always have a missing crack in their world.
- They devalue others.
- Self-Centered do not have long lasting relationships.
- They always think they are superior to others. They are so consumed by their own world.
- It is always about their opinions. They do not want to consider the opinions of others; due to their self-absorption they are consumed by their own point of view, self-image, desires and preferences.
- They are imposing in nature. They repeatedly use words like “should” or “must.” They want to dominate in any type of relationship. Because they see that as a mean of getting what they want and making themselves the center of attention.
- . They think they are great and the world out there is wrong.
- A self-absorbed person can often be egotistical and arrogant, because they feel they are so important and better than every other person.
- They are always self-justifying. They would see the world only from their own eyes. And they would protect their flaws and image, with everything they have got.
- They maintain a superiority complex that most commonly leads to them devaluing others.
- They do not have a real sense of empathy.
- No matter what sort of success they have, they will always feel insufficient internally, so they hide their insecurities behind a cloak of success.
- They consider friendships as a means for getting what they want.
For the self-absorbed person, the problem is either “you” or the “other”- never “me”.
Most of the time, it will look like no form of self-healing or therapy would suit them.
As they are focused on all the wrongs the world has done to them, never accepting any responsibility.
- When you recognize the above signs, consider that you may be dealing with a self-absorbed person
you may be one yourself.
And if you realize that you’re actually one.
It’s never too late to change. You can work on your mentality and start to improve your relationships with yourself and others.