Loneliness is a complex human emotion that is both complex and different with every individual. One kind of loneliness is that your spouse dies and now you’re alone or you’ve moved from one place to another. The second type of loneliness is feeling alone because one has no friends.
Do you ever feel alone? Don’t know you’re happy or sad? Not sure you can count on anyone? That why I’m alone? What is wrong with me? These are some common signs of loneliness. If you have these thoughts then it means one time or another you’ve felt loneliness.
Loneliness is dangerous, for one’s mental health as well as it has severe societal effects. People suffering from loneliness are always in flight or fight state. Lonely people focus mainly on negative thoughts. Instead of building a relationship, they’re more likely to see the negative aspect of that connection.
Nowadays not only old but young people are also facing loneliness. Despite the world may say that technology is bringing people together it has also pushed them away from human connections. Most of the lonely people try to connect with the technology, not for its benefit but to cope up with loneliness.
They believe that they don’t have anyone else so they spend most of their time with technology. Despite the new technology, video calls, social media, and other connections-the loneliness is increasing day by day.
One out of three people is facing loneliness. The effects of loneliness are severe. The child who didn’t have any friends in school is more likely to feel alone as an adult. His societal relations are affected, he’ll be unable to connect to new people because he’ll focus more on negative signals. People suffering from loneliness are sometimes unable to make the right decisions.
Solitude and loneliness are two different things. Some people want some time alone to relax, rest, and spend some time with themselves. That’s solitude, not loneliness. Loneliness is despite the fact you try to connect to people, at the end of the day you are all alone. You start to ask yourself “What is wrong with me?” Whenever you open social media and see pictures of people having fun together, you start to feel alone. You ask yourself why am I not like them? Why don’t I have people like them? why am I alone?
This loneliness, this feeling leads to depression. Due to depression no matter how hard you try you’ll not be happy. In every matter, you’ll blame yourself. If anything doesn’t work out, you’ll blame yourself while a normal person would’ve been reviewing the method he adopted and why he failed?
Lonely people most likely blame themselves for everything. When someone argues with them, even if they’re right they’ll believe that maybe it was their fault.
Lonely people are most likely to be the most helpful persons because they’re trying to build a relationship, a connection. But this world is cruel and most of the people prey on their nature, they use them for their advantage and leave them. This event will be written in the mind of a lonely person. This will not only increase his loneliness but also cause depression.
A single girl is 4 times more likely to be haunted by loneliness, but women are lucky in this matter. A guy is 10 times more likely to be haunted by loneliness.
Some people say they have family and friends yet they feel alone.
The reason for that there is no connection with them. You are sitting with a group of your friends and you are unable to build a connection because they are not engaging with you. They are talking to each other, engaging with each other, intentionally or unintentionally hurting you in the process. Soon, you’ll feel lonely in a group of friends. You’ll leave that group of individuals you used to call friends because you’ll believe that whether you are with them or not, it doesn’t matter to them. You’ll believe that you have no reason to be with them. You’ll convince yourself you are better off alone by yourself rather than being alone around a bunch of people.
What’ll loneliness do to you?
You can’t die because of loneliness but the results of loneliness are severe. Lonely people are most like to face
- Alzheimer’s disease
- Heart failure
- Suicidal thoughts
- Anti-Social Behaviour
- Poor decision making
- Increased stress level
- Alcoholism and Drug Use
Constant fight and flight response due to loneliness, causes a 29% chance of heart failure which is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes daily.
Loneliness is more dangerous than people to accept it. Thinking about the cause of your loneliness can help.