Commit to your dreams
The secret to making your dreams come true lies in commitment.
What’s your dream? Ever imagine it a reality? Have you ever asked yourself, “How do I make my dreams come true?”
You’re constantly frustrated with your life. You want to pursue your dreams and live a successful life, but you just can’t seem to do it.
Everyone around you seems content with their lives. They seem to have achieved their dreams. Even those who are in the midst of hardship seem to be living their dreams. And you can’t help thinking … why not me?
And it’s a good question.
After all, they’re not healthier than you. They’re not smarter than you. They’re not more interesting than you. But for some reason, they seem to have achieved their dreams without struggle. And you start to wonder…
“Following your dreams” is easier said than done. Knowing who you want to be, or what you want to do in life, is not always a clear or easy path. Most importantly, if you really want to achieve your dreams, it is up to you to actively work towards making them happen.
“Wishful thinking” might strengthen your desire, but will not get you closer to fulfilling those dreams, unless you are also examining and evaluating options to make them happen.
What if I told you that you’re not too busy, too broke, too stuck in a rut to achieve your dream. It’s true! There are simple steps you can take to achieving any goal, no matter how big. It just depends on how you focus your attention.
Clearly define what your dream is.
It is not the same to say, “I want to be rich”, than to think “I want to own my own house, a car, and have enough money left to live comfortably every month”. When we dissect our dream and think of it in a realistic way, it becomes less a “wish”, and a more tangible goal. Thus, having a clear idea of what you want usually means you have already won half the battle.
If you don’t know where to start, or don’t have a rough plan on how you will make it happen, do a little research on what others did to successfully achieve a similar dream.
Once you have a few ideas, tweak them to make them your own – think how they would work for you and your circumstances.
Start with small goals that are easy to achieve.
There are always small steps you can take to achieve a bigger end-goal. Starting with something that is easily achieved will boost your confidence while getting you closer to your main objective.
- Running a marathon starts with running one mile.
- Writing a book starts with deciding on a subject.
- Clearing your home of clutter starts with cleaning one drawer, closet, or room.
- Losing 50 pounds starts with changing one meal.
Cultivate confidence in your dream
Trust in your ability to fulfill your dream. Get out of your comfort zone. Take risks, and follow your passion day in and day out. Your dream is a reflection of you, and only you can fulfill it. Without taking the plunge to pursue your dream, you’ll stay in the same position, always wishing you had found the courage to pursue it.
Make your dream your top priority. Create a schedule that makes it part of your daily habits. By making it a consistent daily habit, you’ll prevent your fears from sabotaging your progress.
Prove to yourself that you’re worth giving that dream a shot. Stick to it, not just for weeks or months but for many years to come. Work hard to make the dream a reality.
The more you believe your dream will come true, the more likely you are to achieve it. According to University of Wisconsin neuroscientist, Richard Davidson, the anticipation of achieving your goals makes you work harder toward them.
Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask people for help… and, when you can, pay it forward.
“Making it on our own” does not mean that you are completely isolated working towards your goal. On the contrary, most successful individuals achieve their dreams by playing their strengths and also by knowing when to delegate, or ask for help. If you reach out, you will be surprised at how frequently someone is willing to lend a hand, support, and encourage you to achieve your objectives. Therefore, asking for advice and networking will empower and increase the chances of being successful.
Recruit a mentor who will help you. Either way, you commit because you’ve dreamed big dreams, and you’ve got the confidence that you have the skills and help you need.
Cultivate Healthy Relationships
Human beings are created to be social. Relationships influence our mental health and provide a deep meaning and fulfillment in life. To succeed in life, make healthy relationships your top priority because you need other people to thrive to accomplish your dreams.
So surround yourself with happy people because they’ll make you happy too. Refrain from toxic people, those who continuously undermine your dreams. Eliminate people from your life who try to puncture your dreams. Their negativity will eventually make you doubt your dreams too. Find people who help you believe in yourself and your goals.
Negative thinking is one of the biggest obstacles towards achieving your goals. If you are constantly thinking that you don’t have what it takes, that your dreams are too far away, then you aren’t going to achieve them.
When negative thoughts enter your mind, acknowledge them and send them on their way. For example, if you think “I’m never going to achieve my goal to get published by thirty” acknowledge the thought and change it to “I’m working hard to get published by thirty, but if that doesn’t happen, it doesn’t mean I am a failure.”
Don’t compare yourself to others and whether they’re achieving their dreams. There are always going to be people who are closer to fulfilling their dreams than you are. Respect them for the work they’ve put it and focus on putting work in on your own dreams.
Trust your instincts.
You can receive great advice, or come across and excellent opportunity, but if it doesn’t feel right, listen to your inner voice and evaluate if it is something that would be right for you. Nobody knows what works for you better than you do.
Believe in yourself
If you think you can do it, you probably will not stop until you find a way to make your dreams come true
Prove to yourself that you can do it.
You can do so by staying focused on your dream. You deserve to succeed.
Because there is no such thing as being born with success; it’s all about grit and sticking with it. So just believe in yourself.
Commitment requires determination. And determination requires belief in yourself. You can believe in yourself because you will find a way. Solve any problem. Overcome any setback. If your ancestors were quitters, you wouldn’t be here. They lived through predators, famine, disease, disaster, and yet were committed to move forward. Be brave. Determined. Committed.
You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.Sammy Davis, Jr., Entertainer.
Many people who quit their dreams do so because they give in to fear. People crave certainty, and if they can’t see their full path laid out, they give in to their fears and take the clear path to a non dream. They compromise to hide their fear.
Defeat your fear with certainty of self-confidence. You don’t need a clear path, you need the certain, resolute, and determined belief in your ability to solve the problems and resolve the barriers that will get in your way. Including the barriers in your head: fear, self-doubt, and uncertainty.
Be patient and don’t give up when things don’t go as planned.
Most goals take time, effort, and hard work. Even when you have a perfect plan in mind, it is very likely you will still encounter unforeseen obstacles or situations. Don’t let these discourage you from consistently working toward your goals. Trial and error can be discouraging but will get you closer to your objective. Plus, you never know how close you are from achieving the dream, or when an opportunity will be life changing.
Be a learner
You never know what new information, material, or situations, will give you an idea that might work for your end goal. Inspiration can come from the least expected places. Be curious, expand your general knowledge, and pursue new hobbies. These will improve your chances of finding new innovative and creative ways to reach your desired goal.
Set a deadline
Deadlines force our hand and call us to action. Therefore, it is absolutely essential to pick a realistic timeline and get moving. Buy a home in the next 3 years. Fix your marriage in the next year. Lose 20 pounds in the next 6 months. Or start a blog in the next 30 days. Find a calendar, a red marker, and a day. Go ahead, circle it. After all, a dream without a deadline is just a wish.
Take a moment now to write down what you’d like to accomplish in a few sentences and what it means to you. Let it sink in. Make a promise to yourself that you will keep the commitment to achieving your goal; your dream. Now write down three actions you can take in the coming month to move you closer to the goal. Put some time aside each week to take an action toward your goal. Even the smallest of actions are important, as long as you are moving forward. Make it a priority. When an obstacle comes up, read what you wrote and recommit to your dream. Take incremental steps and vow never to waver so you stay on the path to success.
I hope all my words reach your heart. I would like to conclude by saying that Ditch the victim’s mentality and commit to your dreams. Nothing is impossible. It just requires commitment and consistency. No doubt you have to pass through disappointments as well but the end result will always be satisfying.