Growing through pain and minimizing sufferings

“In the middle of the winter, I finally learned that there was an invincible summer in me”

-Albert Camus-

Everything sometimes hurts  and then it scares us so much that waking up again seems almost unlikely. We experience intense emotional processes when we are living through a painful event. The very inertia of reality has forced us into processes that we will need a lot of strength to get out of. And if we don’t, then we are filled with resentment and suffering. All is about developing through suffering.


Crisis growth isn’t a new concept. Throughout myths, the phoenix is believed to perform a loop of burning to death before returning from the ashes once again. The phoenix was for the Egyptians a symbol of the sun repeating its own cycle of setting and rising, dying, and giving birth. Still imprisoned by her cousin Queen Elizabeth I, Mary Queen of Scots passing through history embroidered her slogan En ma Fin gît mon Commencement (“In my end is my beginning”). Throughout the history of the world and civilizations, humans are consistent witnesses to the cycle of struggle and victory, pain and healing, holding back and bursting forward. Healing is ever easy, but growth is always possible.

 “I’ve been a lucky man in life, nothing was easy for me”

–Sigmund Freud–

Does pain make you grow?

Post-Traumatic Growth is a neurological theory. We all know its cousin, post-traumatic stress. Post-traumatic growth isn’t discussed as often, but it’s the concept that explains how many of us take our pain and use it as the psychological energy to grow.

“Pain is not to make you suffer. Pain is to make you more aware. And when you are conscious, misery disappears.”


Pain is inevitable, suffering optional

Pain and pain are both a part of life. We will mention that these two words are also used as synonyms. Nonetheless, it’s necessary to consider what differentiates them in order to work with them properly.  Pain is an emotion in its psychological dimension which may arise in some situations or problems. This has a physical, emotional, and mental impact on us which stays until the individual can heal the pain in that way implies recognition and getting in contact with what we experience. It should also be noted that it is proportional to the magnitude of the event that produced it for us that the time the pain is prolonged for.   “Once the pain passes, we usually forget it

Growing through pain

“Find a place within you where there is joy, and that joy will erase the pain”

-Joseph Campbell-

This is the mindset that has the potential to make us unhappy, as it comes down to it. According to psychotherapist Joan Garriga, any loss can be an opportunity to grow as humans, find relief, and free ourselves from attachments and labels. Likewise, with any traumatic cycle, the great danger is that we will not conquer it and that we will only fall into habits that feed suffering: moaning, feeling betrayed, vengeance, rigidity, pride. In this sense, it should be noted that pain is an inherent process in life, and it is important that we grow and understand more enrichingly what we are experiencing.

“I’ve been a lucky man in life, nothing was easy for me”

–Sigmund Freud–

Learning along the way

We know what is difficult in practice, and what will bring us misery. We become aware of our frailty when we come in contact with the most heartrending pain. Around the same time, we are also increasing ourselves in a place that will enable us to realize our importance. And it is on this road that one learns that everything is changing and that the sun will always shine again with the beauty and strength of a new dawn after the clouds are gone. And this when we discover the energy that dwells inside us. The strength that helps us surmount the difficult roads and the inertia that pushes us to them.

“The most beautiful people I have met are those who have known defeat, suffering, struggle, and loss, and who have found their way out of the depths”

Elisabeth Kubler Ross

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