Fear of Judgement

Fear of Judgement

Fear of judgement

 Are you afraid of being judged? Do you always think that you are not enough? Have you found yourself holding back from being yourself?

Why do people judge others?

 Where does Judgement come from?

Judgement comes from the fear of not being enough, fear of being criticized. We are afraid that people will mock us. We have a fear to step into our purposes. The fear of being judged arises when we are not clear about where we want to get particularly when we are not aware of our goals.

It arises when we are not much confident about our actions and allows self-doubt to sweep in. Denial of our flaws Is another reason for fear of being judged. We feel unworthy and unlovable because we are afraid of this stereotypical thinking that  

What will people say?  

We keep other opinions ahead of us. We are more concerned about what will others think about us rather than our own likeness, our own perception.

We are afraid that people will judge the way we talk, we sit, we eat, we laugh, we post, each and everything about us. And however, every individual we meet is going to form an opinion about us depending upon the type of thought process we hold, the type of people we hang out with , the food we like, the music we listen to, the people we follow etc.

A false sense of superiority

It’s natural, we all Judge from time to time. Judging one another provides a false sense of superiority. We position ourselves as appearing right and the other person wrong by default.

We consider it our right to judge others. To criticize others and to pass harsh comments on them.

Just check out any celebrity post you can see all types of comments. Those comments show how ridiculously people judge them. Even now some celebrities off their comment sections just to avoid these types of judgement.

In schools, colleges, universities, offices, family functions, get-togethers we faced judgement. We even judge strangers.

We judge base on a half-truth

We judge people based on incomplete information. We judge others by constructing a reality we think exists in our minds.

For instance, we see a couple sitting in silence at a café and think

How awkward!

But the couple might feel differently. They may be comfortable Sitting quietly. They might have their own reason but we will judge without knowing the fact. Because it is our right!

Social anxiety

Judgement can cause many disorders, one of them is social anxiety.Social anxiety disorder (also called social phobia) is a mental health condition. It is an intense, persistent fear of being watched and judged by others. This fear can affect work, school, and other day-to-day activities. It can even make it hard to make and keep friends.

We Are Our Own biggest critic

Basically, the fear of being judged is a reflection  of our own insecurities. We mostly tend to judge other people based on what we think is acceptable or embarrassing. And we judged ourselves on the same criteria that we have made for others.

So, whenever we have a fear that someone is judging us. what we actually doing is judging ourselves. We put ourselves in a frame of other’s parameters. Those parameters that society has made for us.

Most of the time people aren’t judging us. And when they are, they are almost never judging us as harshly as we do ourselves.

People will judge you!

 We can’t escape from being judged all this while. We can’t stop anyone from judging us.

They will judge us at any cost. So don’t give them any importance. Just ignore them and focus on your own goals. You have your own worth, own identity. You are beautiful just the way you are.

Let it be!

“Let them judge you

  Let them misunderstood you

Let them gossip about you

Their opinions are not your problem

You stay kind, committed to love,

And free in your authenticity

No matter what they do or say,

Don’t you dare doubt your worth

Or the beauty of your truth,

Just keep on shining like you do. “

Maida Saeed

A rhetorical author of Blogsy. She can influence people through her impressive style of writing.