Who doesn’t wish for some certain things in their life? Everyone does! In fact, it’s our wants and wishes that help us grow, to achieve bigger, to gain something new. It is easy to long for a thing. But to make our way to it confuses us. So here is a simple guide for you. Let’s start working on our dreams to make them happen. Then to just sit in a corner and cry over the past.
Suppose you want a promotion for your job or need a raise. How will you pass on it? Let’s have a look at it as an example.
The 6 ways to achieve what you want
One of the biggest problems most of us face is that we don’t ask. We have questions arising in minds that we ignore. We are either so ashamed to ask or we consider ourselves to be very intelligent. Sometimes we consider it bad to ask for a thing because we think our knowledge is enough for that. Remember it’s not! Even if you think the question is foolish, don’t hesitate to reach out for help, when you need it.
A Chinese proverb says:
He who asks a question, remains a fool for five minutes. He who does not ask, remains a fool forever. source
Who doesn’t know Barack Obama? A graceful American President of the past. He even is a successful person says:
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. I do that every day. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don’t know something, and to learn something new.Barack Obama
For example, if you have a job. You want a raise or maybe you are looking for a newly available position. Don’t expect that others can just read your mind and suggest to you that. Speak! Ask for it is clear and confident. Because if you will hesitate, you’ll have to regret it later. Don’t beat around the bush. Leave a clear message free of confusion and doubt on the receiver’s end.
2. Stop apologizing
Don’t beg pardon when you want an answer from someone. Nor apologize once you have shown your interest in a thing. Stick to it as one man, don’t step back. If you need a thing, it’s you being real. Also, you don’t need an apology for showing your potential and interest. Give yourself importance. It might seem selfish sometimes. But doing this will point you as being unconfident. Like as if your goal is not important enough, and that you can bear a sacrifice. No, you can’t! Make a firm goal and stay on it.
For example, when asking for a raise, don’t ever start your conversation like: ‘I’m sorry to ask but…’. And don’t ever end your conversation like this: ‘If not, it’s no big deal.’ Be confident about what you ask, like if it really matters!
3. Make your gain their gain
If you want something from someone, make them feel that it can also benefit them. Don’t act or appear selfish and that this thing will only benefit you. Make them realize as if it’s in ‘their’ perfect benefit. Remember that everyone looks for the pros and cons of their certain act. You have to give your deal an impression as if it’s the best. not only this, you have to use your achievement to affect their lives positively so that you can be relied upon in the future.
While asking for a thing, make it seem the best decision to the one making it. While you are asking your boss for a promotion, be confident. Highlight your previous achievements. Along with this, assure them that your achievement will work best for them. And how your selection is going to benefit them in in future.
4. Make yourself invaluable
Who wants to be replaceable? No one. We all want to be incomparable. Be visible in your surroundings. Act exceptionally energetic. And don’t just be a wordsmith. Do work on yourself. Achieve high potential through constant working. Don’t work hard but smart. Built a great reputation and become an invaluable asset.
If asking for a raise, show that your skill actually needs to be paid a higher amount and value. Prove yourself and then bear the fruit.
5. Get prepared for your want to be fulfilled
Make yourself ready to achieve what you long for. Let’s prove yourself from the day you come into your desired field. Start managing your schedule for better accommodation of recent tasks.
Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.Maya Angelou
Stay persistent and keep in working for your dream. Work harder to achieve more. Life is not about to just sit and eat. It’s a constant struggle. Make your dreams real. Have big goals and work on them persistently.
Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.Calvin Coolidge
Try A Different Route
It often happens that we fail to make our dream come true. Never get dishearten. Remember you can achieve anything. Maybe a path doesn’t lead you to it. Another will. Keep on working on your dreams and never-give-up!
Be smart, be confident and stay persistent. Don’t fool yourself with shortcuts. Work to achieve a better bigger goal.