Psychology and Communication go round and round. Psychology is the study of a human’s mind, while communication means how a person approaches or interacts with another person. When we take a deeper look at how someone communicates with others, we may know how they think. And a person’s mind is deliberately his personality. Therefore, what shapes someone’s personality? The answer is: how he communicates with others along with how he reacts to certain triggers. Communication can be verbal and non-verbal. Non-verbal communication is everything besides speaking, for instance, gestures, motions, body posture, style of talking, tone, etc.
In this article, we will highlight 12 little things that can determine someone’s personality. Whether you admit it or not, you subconsciously judge them depending on different factors when you meet someone. We will evaluate such factors below.
At the end of this article, I will ask a fun yet challenging question for you to ponder on and answer in the comments.
Here are the 12 little things that tell a lot about your personality:
Your handshake:
When you greet someone or leave an interview, it is a common courtesy to shake your hands with the person. However, if the handshake is strong, it means you are confident and active. Whereas if your handshake is weak, it reflects your lack of confidence.
According to a research, those with strong handshakes are more likely to be extrovert and less likely to be neurotic and shy.
Your Punctuality:
Almost everyone advises punctuality. Why? Because whether you show up on time or not reveals a lot about you. If you show up on time, you are pro-active, organized, and self-motivated. But, if you run late, you don’t value time and are certainly a procrastinator, which doesn’t make you likable.
Similarly, in case you show up late on an interview, sorry, but it is more likely that you have lost the job.
Your Behavior with Staff:
Whether you are in a restaurant, on a shopping spree, or in college/university, how you treat the staff members reveals your true self. If you treat waiters, guards, maids, etc., nicely and kindly, you give off a humble vibe that makes you more likable. But many people consider this your worst trait that you are rude to the staff. Interviewers may not hire you if you are good to your colleagues but rude to the staff.
Eye-contact:
In some cultures, making an eye-contact depicts your personality straight-forward. Strong, extrovert, independent and confident people make eye-contact while communicating with someone. On the other hand, those who don’t make eye contact show lack of confident, lack of self-control, a weak will. Now that doesn’t make you look good, right?
Your way of Arguing:
If you want to judge someone or even judge yourself, notice closely how the other person argues, or you do. When arguing with loved ones, do you target them or the problem? Now, this shows your true nature and maturity.
Your Response to Rejection:
What do you say when you get a “no”? Do you get mad or calmly acknowledge all the factors that led to the rejection? This reaction shows the importance you give to yourself as well to the other’s freedom of opinion.
Gossip:
Gossip is bad if you mishandle it. If you go around gossiping about everything in a negative manner, then surely you are non-trustworthy. Therefore, focus on the gossip content, and whether it is true or not, it shows if you are thoughtful or not.
Taking Responsibility:
Do you take responsibility for everything you do? Because our reactions and actions are our own choice. A mature, honest person and a confident one take responsibility for everything while a lazy and dishonest person blames others for their actions.
Checking Your Phone:
Do you check your phone quite often? This shows your emotional instability.
Where you look when drinking from a Cup:
If you look into the cup’s rim when drinking from it, it shows you are focused and self-aware. However, if you are looking over the cup, research says that you can be easily influenced by others. Similarly, they are trusting, carefree, and extroverted.
Your favorite colors:
Read out about this factor in another article of ours, here.
Your Eating Habits:
If you eat slowly, you are more likely to be in control and enjoy life. But if you eat fast, you are ambitious, goal-oriented, and meanwhile impatient.
There are many more such factors as well. However, if you want to add do share in comments.
You remember I intended to ask you a question at the end, well here it is: Do you think writing style can tell about someone’s personality. If yes, what does this article say about the author?
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