10 Good Things About Being Shy
Are you shy and think this is a weakness? Have people told you that you’re shy? Growing up, did you hear admonitions such as, “You’re so shy! Don’t be bashful. Why are you so shy?”
Does the thought of giving a presentation in a room full of people make you feel physically sick?
To certain people, mingling at a party or talking to a crowded room is the stuff of nightmares. Or meeting someone in person who you’ve previously only spoken to online. Why are some of us hardwired to be shy?
When someone offers a compliment or affection, do you notice a surge of shyness? When you meet someone you’re attracted to, do you feel a little shy?
If so, you’re not alone.
You may be looking at shyness the wrong way. According to the latest research, somewhere between 40 and 60 percent of all adults report being shy. And while it’s easy to get down on yourself when you are shy or socially anxious, there are times when it’s a trait of real strength.
In an era of overconfidence, what’s a shy man to do?
Being the shy kid can be hard. You may have wondered if you’d ever be able to start a conversation.
At the same time, it can be easy to get down on yourself if you are shy; it might seem like everyone else is doing better socially than you. At times like these, it is helpful to consider some of the benefits or advantages of being shy.
But even though being shy has its advantages, the label still seems to carry a negative connotation in our shy people know that the habits they form aren’t just because they’re aloof – it’s because they approach life with a different thinking pattern than their more outspoken counterparts. And their signature personality trait isn’t all bad.
Rather than seeing shyness as a weakness, can you embrace it?
You’re a good listener
If you were ever the person who would rarely speak out in a group, then you’ve probably been practicing an important skill without even knowing it — being a good listener. Those days of nodding along whilst everyone else got to the chance to talk will mean that you’re in tune to the dynamics of conversation and are happy to sit back and give others the floor.
Although it’s also important that you now feel comfortable turning the conversation onto yourself every once in a while, being a good listener is still an incredibly valuable trait. Your friends will appreciate your ability to engage thoughtfully with what they have to say and will know that they can always come to you when they need someone to lend an ear.
You’re fine with your own company
Being happy with your own company also means that you will be open to opportunities that more extroverted individuals might balk at. Traveling alone can be an incredible and affirming experience, and you probably wouldn’t think twice about going to the theatre or a gig by yourself if no one else wants a ticket. Being shy as a child sets you up to enjoy the things that you want to in life, regardless of whether anyone else wants to come along for the ride.
You value your friendships
Being shy as a child might have meant that your friendship circle was small or non-existent. Although this can be hard and have lasting impacts, it will also mean that the friendships that you are fortunate enough to have gained as an adult are especially valuable to you. If these friends are from your childhood, then this is particularly true, as you will know that they appreciated your shyness back then and love you for you.
The few friendships you possess are usually deep long lasting ones. Making friends probably isn’t easy for shy people so when they do stumble upon a friend,you value them greatly and work to maintain it.
Human Service Positions/Empathy
You’re extremely sensitive to the feelings and emotions of others, which leads to you excelling in human service positions, such as being a psychologist or teacher. They’re great listeners who people can easily open up to. Shy leaders are often more effective as they talk less and listen more than extroverted leaders.
Calming Effect on Others
Shy people give off a peaceful vibe, especially in an environment that is very upbeat. Their calmness and ability to not be dramatic may have a positive effect on others.
Shyness is rarely a threatening characteristic of people and it’s easier to approach a shy person than it is to do so with a social butterfly. Most shy people don’t have a stuck-up attitude.
They don’t gossip much or brag; people can trust them with keeping secrets.
Successful at Solitary Work
A majority of jobs require focus and concentration in a solitary environment (accountant, clerical work, lab technician, etc.) and this is where shy people thrive in. Because they aren’t very social, they have fewer distractions and interruptions which allows them to perform exceptionally in solitary work, or even work itself.
You are extremely adaptable
Being shy can keep you from a lot of things in life that you wish to experience. There’s a natural urge to avoid situations that may be overwhelming, like having to make a presentation or attend a networking event. But life has a habit of throwing these challenges in your path and you must find ways to deal with them.
For shy people, facing fearful situations is an everyday event. And this means you’re always finding ways to adapt by doing things in ways that make sense for you. You’re always developing strategies to cope with life’s difficulties, and being a fighter has huge benefits in your work and personal life.
Your Modesty Is Attractive
Many shy people are modest; you are the last one to announce your accomplishments or let the world know what is amazing about you. You probably shrink from compliments or downplay your positive attributes.
Shy people don’t brag about their accomplishments and success. They may downplay compliments or even their own positive attributes. This can, in turn, be seen as attractive by many.
Although too much modesty can eat away at self-esteem, a healthy dose is considered an attractive trait by many.
You learn that it’s hard for you to socialize which is a struggle but this will help you depend on yourself… and that’s all you really need at the end of the day. You learn to stick to yourself and mind your own business and not worry about anyone else. Another benefit is people don’t know much about you or your motives, so they will most likely not know what you’re all about and will have a better chance of NOT taking advantage of you.
Embrace your shyness
If you’re currently a shy person, share your thoughts on how it has or continues to affect you. Do you hope to one day overcome your shyness or are you perfectly fine with this characteristic? I’d love to hear what you all say!